6 Necessary Ingredients to Move Through Fear

Everyone does well when they can follow a recipe! So, I developed these 6 ingredients that are necessary to move through the fear.  It’s simple but powerful.  Follow these 6 steps:

1. Notice your feelings. Don’t analyze, criticize, judge, evaluate, or understand . . . just notice it.  Noticing your feelings about this fear you undo several hooks that keep you tangled up.
2. Separate reality from imagination.  Most fear is future what-if’s and past should have’s.  What’s fake about your fear?  Don’t avoid painful honesty – it feels good!
3. Make it Big.  Soak up your fear.  Make it real.  Throw yourself into you fear and watch what happens – you will come out the other side!  Once you get to the far side you realize it’s not what you thought.
4. Next time an opportunity to influence comes up that raises fear, relax, surrender, and sink to the depth of the feeling. In that fear, notice what’s on your mind and experience your physical response – total immersion.
5. Ask crazy questions.  Like, so what? Or why bother? What does this mean to me?  If my fear came true, would someone die? (that’s my litmus test!) Develop an attitude about moving through your fear – one of influencing without hesitation.
6. Put yourself in a place of ‘flow.’ Athletes refer to this as ‘being in the zone” - where you only exist in the here and now.  When women are not in the present the fear sucks our energy and focus.  Give your attention to committing yourself to action.

Caroline Adams Miller, author of “Creating Your Best Life” talks about having grit!  What a word!  No one has more grit than women.  I mean, look at who really settled the west – it was the women! She defines grit as, “perseverance and passion for long-term goals.”  This is at the top of the list when it comes to breaking down and moving through our fear.  Caroline goes on to identify ‘grit’ as a determining trait that makes a difference in long-term success.  She goes further by saying we need to combine our perseverance with ‘hard work and task commitment.’ Who doesn’t want long-term success?  I do!