Karen Keller
Supporting a co-worker? Are you kidding? I can't support someone who could take my job, steal my thunder, or finish my story behind my back?
This is the message we hear especially in the work place. We live in a time where people are desperate for each other's wisdom and guidance. And yet, there's hesitation. Unfortunately, stats show bullying among co-workers is on the rise.
We have a responsibility toward each other to help support him or her in living their finest. It doesn't matter if we are co-workers, leaders or friends. What matters is that we help each other live as close to our unique potential as possible.
In everything you say or do, you're influencing people you care about. Be considerate. Be intentional. Here are ten ways we can help each other realize the best that's within each of us.
1. Believe in Them
Their confidence may be shaken. Faith in their talents or skills may be weak. At a time like this, it is priceless having someone believe in you. Let it be you. There are numerous success stories of people who accomplished great things because someone believed in them.
2. Cheer Them On
"You can do it." "I know you can." These are words that are all-too-infrequently voiced. Sincere encouragement goes a long way in helping them stay focused. Being specific means better results. "I remember when you proposed your idea last year and ended up getting a raise. I bet you'll do even better this time."
3. Expect Beyond
Too many times we are told, "Don't expect too much." Or "Don't get your hopes up." "Be realistic." That's just another way of saying, "Don't expect more than what I think is enough for you." However, we need to up-grade our expectations of each other. You will find people can rise to the challenge surprising everyone.
4. Tell the Truth
Compassion and intentions are important in truth-telling. People avoid truth when it could cause pain. We are supposed to 'play nice,' remember? Being truthful is a loving act. Being the only person who has the courage to say what needs to be said is a thankless job, at the moment, but is rewarding in the long run.
5. Be a Role Model
Powerful people influence by their actions. Who we are speaks much more loudly than what we say. Others are watching you. They're recording everything about you consciously and unconsciously. We automatically emulate our role models. We're ALL role models to someone so let's be good ones.
6. Share Yourself
Share what you have learned from your mistakes. Talk about what lead to your mistakes; doubts, needing permission, fear of risk. Too often, the value of sharing our failings is missed. It's okay to show your humanity. This adds to your relatability.
7. Challenge Them
Challenge with the intention of propelling them beyond what they believe is possible. Forget about the negative connotations of the word challenge. Make it a test of their abilities to thrive in the face of uncertainty.
8. Ask Smart Question
Don't tell them what to do. Ask questions that make her think, cause her to consider alternatives, or help her see her mistakes. This is how she will understand herself better, what the issue is and what her choices are. Smart questions lead to smart solutions.
9. Acknowledge Them
Look for the best in her. Catch them doing something good or right. Recognize how taking care of themselves is the first step in everything. When you acknowledge them first they will move forward in confidence. Tip: This is especially cool to do in front of others.
10. Spend Time with Them
By devoting your most precious resource of time you're showing them that you value them and your relationship. Making a time investment is the highest form of encouragement.
