Interacting with peers is part of your job. Heck, it’s part of life!
The connections we make while we’re at work, at a social gathering or just spending some time with family are the connections that allow us to win friends (and influence people).
Or maybe not.
You see, if you’re not interacting with a little bit of extra energy the first time you meet someone, you may not make a great first impression. I’m not saying you have to be a ball of vigor 100% of the time, but it pays to be energetic on your initial interaction with someone.
To prove my point, here are a few situations and two options for a response. Choose which one you think would create the type of healthy, positive relationship that you would want to have in the future.
You’re at a work happy hour and a new manager, your peer, comes up to introduce themself to you. Do you:
- Politely shake their hand and then wait for them to initiate any type of conversation. You remain talking to the new manager, but never fully engage them in the conversation and only give answers to their questions.
- Warmly shakes their hand and immediately ask them how they like the company and if they have any questions you can answer for them. Listen to their response and begin a two-sided conversation that involves both answering and asking questions.
While at a friend’s birthday party, you find yourself seated next to someone you’ve never met before. Do you:
- Turn to them and introduce yourself saying, “Obviously we both have great taste in friends, how do you know the birthday boy/girl?”
- Ignore the person you don’t know and scan the area for someone you do know and begin to talk to them, even if it means talking over or around the person you have not met.
You’re on the subway and you make eye contact with someone who works in a competitor’s office. Do you:
- Wave, making certain he knows you want to talk after the ride?
- Quickly look away because after all, he is the competition.
Your initial interactions tell people lots about you. They are instrumental in deciding how you will be received and how much attention they give you. To present your most influential self is to be just that – yourself. Genuine authenticity is never over rated.
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