Emotional Intelligence

Most people guess incorrectly about the best way to reach out in empathy to others. Yet identifying with others is one of the chief means we gain likeability, one of the Seven Influence Traits®. Of course we don’t empathize with others merely to increase a score; however, having people understand we are emotionally in their corner does help us lead them.

What Is Empathy?

The action of understanding, being aware of, being sensitive to, and vicariously experiencing the feelings, thoughts, and experience of another of either the past or present without having the feelings, thoughts, and experience fully communicated in an objectively explicit manner - Merriam Webster

Which Road to Empathy?

Research suggests that a process of systematic reasoning outperforms gut instinct for understanding what other people are thinking and feeling. This counters our own self-perception that gut instinct would be the best means to empathize.

Is it so bad to feel envious or jealous of someone or others’ opportunities?  No. Actually, jealously can be a helpful emotion. It serves as a clue that you need to pay closer attention. It forces you to listen carefully what is behind the green-eyed monster.

Keeping your morale up each day can be really difficult. Trust me, I understand. But there are 6 practices that I’ve learned to do over the years that have helped me keep my energy and morale pretty high most days.  

We were given a gift of intuition and we should rely on it more often. Ignoring it can often lead to very bad results!

Your initial interactions tell people lots about you. They are instrumental in deciding how you will be received and how much attention they give you. How energetic are you when meeting new people?

5 ways to approach an anxiety-producing scenario with courage instead of fear.